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Originally Posted by Mr.SugarSkulls
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Originally Posted by Not_Judy
The most annoying thing currently at the gym is the girlfriend. After I joined she decided to join as well under the ole "We can work out together." If you did the girlfriend voice thing as you read that we can be friends.
We both get off work at 4:30 p.m. She lives 7 minutes from me exactly. Somehow it takes her 3 hours to go home and change into gym clothes and then meet me at my place. It is now getting to where it is almost 8:00 p.m. before we get to the gym. Mind you I have to be at work at 6:30 a.m. She has also started this new thing where she mismanages her time so poorly throughout the day at her job that she doesn't eat lunch. I eat a lean lunch and don't eat dinner. After leaving the gym around 9:00 - 9:30 she is now hungry. Don't get me wrong I'd like to eat too but I'm also trying to drop an additional 30 pounds. I've tried explaining to her how pointless it is go do a bunch of cardio/weight resistance and then eat that late. My other biggest complaint is that I can leave work, go to the gym and have my entire workout finished before she even gets to my house. Due to the fact of getting to the gym so late, I have to cut my session in half because she is done after 20 minutes and although she doesn't complain, I can tell she gets frustrated having to wait on me to finish.
My gym partner is now causing me not to get the workout in that I want and I'm starting to resent her for it. Last night I made the comment that I may just start going right after work. Her response was "Well I hope it doesn't bother you if I go alone and not get to your house until late because I go later"
WTF, how do I tell her to manage her time more wisely and get her shit together without being an asshole or starting a fight? This could potentially end a 2 1/2 year relationship. I am not going to allow someone else's lack of planning or motivation to derail mine.
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Your first mistake is allowing her to join you on your gym time aka therapy "me time".
The way I see things- there are two types of people- those who go to socialize/do it for the gram/and just bullshit their time who can afford distractions at the gym- and those are actually there for self improvement/gainz/PRs/etc
Associate yourself with the correct group, and it's a non factor. You associated yourself with group A.
I met my ex gf at the gym actually- when she and I both randomly went during an "off hour" meaning she was a morning person, me a night person- and we happened to go in the afternoon that day.
We both agreed to not mess with our schedules- and only once a week on the weekends- go together to the gym at night. (Instead or going out- with Saturday being our night to socialize our)
Compromise the same with your gf- and make her understand that the gym is strictly "you" time. Once or twice a week you guys can go together, but other than that, make her feel she's free to go whenever she wants, and you keep to your schedule and accomplish your goals. |
You're spot on. Doesn't matter now. We broke up tonight. Refer to the last couple of pages to the dating thread.