Telephone ettiquette, or lack thereof

3.0L · 06-13-2025, 10:13 AM

When I as a kid I was taught to introduce myself when making a phone call:
“This is Johnny Smith. May I please speak with Joey?”

Fast forward to today. Every f-ing phone call I receive these days, the caller
fails to identify themselves without me asking. Even my doctor’s offices do
this and it is infuriating.

And of course, all of the fraud/spam callers hang up the instant I ask, “Who
is calling, please?”

WTF.

bucketfoot · 06-13-2025, 10:16 AM

We got a phone message from one of my wife's medical places yesterday saying it is time to setup an appointment. At no time in the message did they say the name of the practice.

dreamingat30fps · 06-13-2025, 11:32 AM

You answer the phone when you don't know who's calling??

99% of the calls I get are spam/scams. If you're not in my contacts I'm not answering. If they are legit they will leave a message.

My personal pet peeve are all the automated answering systems. Honestly whoever invented that garbage should be stoned to death.

2000cs · 06-13-2025, 03:00 PM

When I answer a call, I always say, “Hi, this is 2000cs”. Of course I only answer contacts. I just think it’s polite to let the caller know they reached me.

When I’m calling, I say, “Hello, is x there”? And then introduce myself based on the response.

Esteban · 06-13-2025, 03:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 2000cs

When I answer a call, I always say, “Hi, this is 2000cs”. Of course I only answer contacts. I just think it’s polite to let the caller know they reached me.

When I’m calling, I say, “Hello, is x there”? And then introduce myself based on the response.

Sounds like proper etiquette to me.

UncleWede · 06-13-2025, 03:23 PM

Which side of the aisle does "TF you want?" fall on?

erickonphoenix · 06-13-2025, 04:28 PM

All my calls are screened then i'll check the voicemail text conversion to see what's important. Definitely would introduce myself on a cold call.

However, my boss always answers phone calls with just "what?" and concludes his calls with nothing, just hangs up. I find it hilarious but few others do.

Frostynorth · 06-13-2025, 08:20 PM

How about all the turds that walk around with speakerphone blasted. Would rather ask who is this than deal with that.

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