Dating: Coming on too strong?

135Pats · 05-12-2015, 01:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Sara504

way too late

No it's not, you haven't done anything yet. You're stressing over an imaginary problem. You want to learn more about this person, so you asked if they'd like to spend more time with you. It appears they do. So go enjoy it! And stop worrying.

Go have a margarita or something in the interim, clearly this is bothering you and there's no reason that should be the case.

Billup · 05-12-2015, 01:09 PM

We know you're wrong. As men, we just like seeing proof when we are right, otherwise it's just words and doesn't mean as much. It's not often we are right. Let us have this moment.

Anywho. Start being Ra, re-fuckin-lax, and go enjoy your second date for the sake of this thread having some real direction. Just don't give yourself up and forget the whole purpose of why you're dating, men like mystery and working for something just as much as women.

Taskmaster · 05-12-2015, 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Sara504

Still want them? I've already said I was in the wrong.

Yes I do.

One thing about women I learned it they HATE being ignored - it's interesting see things from their(your) perspective.

UncleWede · 05-12-2015, 01:11 PM

but please continue the journey for us, right up until you take off her fancy billion$ shoes

Myrder · 05-12-2015, 01:25 PM

He's not in for a long thing. He wants some fun is all. Clear as day. You demonstrated "fun" on the first date, so now he will come around every so often and keep you at arms length since he's clearly calling the shots already.

JasonCSU · 05-12-2015, 01:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Sara504

UM YES! He texted me at 7:01 am the morning after we met saying he had a really great time and he's looking forward to seeing me again.!!! and now he's quiet today? Dafuq?

This is the thing I hate about texting and the millennial generation; everyone expects an instant reply. The point of texting is to send a message when you can't make a phone call, or don't want to bother the other person with a call, so they may not reply right away. It seems it has gotten to the point where people can only communicate via text now.

With this guy being a lawyer, maybe he is busy meeting with a client, partners, or is in court. It's not exactly professional to send a text message in those situations even if it only takes a few seconds. If there hasn't been a reply after an extended period of time, then yeah, it probably is one of the other scenarios mentioned in this thread.

Revartr · 05-12-2015, 01:55 PM

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Originally Posted by JasonCSU

This is the thing I hate about texting and the millennial generation; everyone expects an instant reply. The point of texting is to send a message when you can't make a phone call, or don't want to bother the other person with a call, so they may not reply right away. It seems it has gotten to the point where people can only communicate via text now.

I RARELY make phone calls. The only people I really even talk to on the phone are my parents because they don't text. The only way I converse with people when not in person is thru text. I don't really know anybody that talks on the phone anymore, aside from if it's really important.

JasonCSU · 05-12-2015, 02:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Revartr

I RARELY make phone calls. The only people I really even talk to on the phone are my parents because they don't text. The only way I converse with people when not in person is thru text. I don't really know anybody that talks on the phone anymore, aside from if it's really important.

So like I said, it's getting to the point where people only communicate via text now which is sad. Sometimes I've found myself typing a novel back and forth with someone when a simple phone conversation would have been much quicker and easier. Even with emoticons, it is not always easy to convey humor, sarcasm, or even the point of a message compared to tone of voice or body language when face to face.

bimmette · 05-12-2015, 02:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Sara504

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Screenshots!

Still want them? I've already said I was in the wrong.

Waiting!

MrPrena · 05-12-2015, 02:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Douche

MrSugarSkulls, initiate one so she doesn't feel uncomfortable anymore.

My second thought.

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Originally Posted by Nkc

Score!!! Sugar daddy #2. Lets do this slow and bait him in.

My first thought.

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Originally Posted by Sara504

I feel weird about going on a second date with a guy I have been talking to for two weeks. We had an AMAZING first date. I mean the best I've ever been on. We have our second date lined up for this Friday but I was the one who initiated both dates.........Do you guys see that as an issue?

I feel like I'm coming on too strong here.

I dont know how to do this anymore.

Fuck it, I'm going to end up as a cat lady.

If it was asking out for HS prom, I agree.
I don't see any issues. Too passive can be "pass" for a guy and just go with next date lined up. Person like me might analyze,
"Oh, because I drive a Geo Metro, she is not into me."

then, I will goto UCLA Geffen School, and find a student/resident who can give me a nice .....

Personally, you did good by arranging 1st and 2nd.

Sara · 05-12-2015, 02:45 PM

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Originally Posted by bimmette

Waiting!

I let Billup read over convo. He brought up some very valid points based on the situation.

Its over. I decided I'm not going out Friday and I'm not talking to him anymore.

Bobble · 05-12-2015, 03:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Revartr

I RARELY make phone calls. The only people I really even talk to on the phone are my parents because they don't text. The only way I converse with people when not in person is thru text. I don't really know anybody that talks on the phone anymore, aside from if it's really important.

Too funny, when I am interviewing people under the age of @30 I basically ask about a scenario where you have the choice of talking to someone or texting them to just not talk. They choose the later interview over. People seriously need to learn to interact anymore, languages issues aside.

Revartr · 05-12-2015, 03:15 PM

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Originally Posted by JasonCSU

So like I said, it's getting to the point where people only communicate via text now which is sad. Sometimes I've found myself typing a novel back and forth with someone when a simple phone conversation would have been much quicker and easier. Even with emoticons, it is not always easy to convey humor, sarcasm, or even the point of a message compared to tone of voice or body language when face to face.

It's just a lot easier and more convenient, imo. But then again, I'm only 22 and sort of grew up with it.

Douche · 05-12-2015, 03:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Sara504

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Originally Posted by bimmette

Waiting!

I let Billup read over convo. He brought up some very valid points based on the situation.

Its over. I decided I'm not going out Friday and I'm not talking to him anymore.

You're going to rely on one dude to decide your entire love life?

Wow... Business must be good

Sara · 05-12-2015, 03:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Douche

You're going to rely on one dude to decide your entire love life?

Wow... Business must be good

I made the decision. Not him. End thread.

954Stealth · 05-12-2015, 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Sara504

I made the decision. Not him. End thread.

Making decisions and you're definitely not wearing pants in that avatar photo

954Stealth · 05-12-2015, 03:25 PM

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Originally Posted by 954Stealth

Making decisions and you're definitely not wearing pants in that avatar photo

Was this too creepy? ok it was creepy

Myrder · 05-12-2015, 03:28 PM

Can't believe you let him drive your car... I don't let girls do that even if I dated them for a year.

Sara · 05-12-2015, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Myrder

Can't believe you let him drive your car... I don't let girls do that even if I dated them for a year.

He couldnt figure out how to put it in reverse

Templar · 05-12-2015, 03:31 PM

I don't really know what to say, so I'm just in here for whatever else happens.

Sara · 05-12-2015, 03:31 PM

OK! End Thread! if by some miracle I do go out Friday then well yeah. But for now, end thread.

Douche · 05-12-2015, 03:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Sara504

OK! End Thread! if by some miracle I do go out Friday then well yeah. But for now, end thread.

Well yeah what?

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Myrder Major 162 Rep 1,264 Posts Drives: 2010 E92 335i MSport 6MT LMB Join Date: Apr 2013 Location: WildWest iTrader: (1)	He's not in for a long thing. He wants some fun is all. Clear as day. You demonstrated "fun" on the first date, so now he will come around every so often and keep you at arms length since he's clearly calling the shots already. __________________ 2010\|335i\|LMB\|E92\|6MT\|MSport\|Logic7\|335is Clutch\|AE Performance\|BMS\|Walbro\|VRSF 7"\| 149.7mph NFZ AZ 1/2mi 1992\|Pontiac Firebird\|Mild 355ci\|T56\| -I will look on your treasures, gypsy. Is this understood?-
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Myrder Major 162 Rep 1,264 Posts Drives: 2010 E92 335i MSport 6MT LMB Join Date: Apr 2013 Location: WildWest iTrader: (1)	Can't believe you let him drive your car... I don't let girls do that even if I dated them for a year. __________________ 2010\|335i\|LMB\|E92\|6MT\|MSport\|Logic7\|335is Clutch\|AE Performance\|BMS\|Walbro\|VRSF 7"\| 149.7mph NFZ AZ 1/2mi 1992\|Pontiac Firebird\|Mild 355ci\|T56\| -I will look on your treasures, gypsy. Is this understood?-
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