[Zippster]

Originally Posted by MightyMouseTech

People like this never get it, unless it hits them in the pocket book.

disagree, everyday she needs to deal with trying to get in and out of her car she will be thinking about it on her way to work. You have to chase them down to get them to pay, it might be a fruitless task that just pisses you off and makes them feel justified. Fight fire with fire.

[MightyMouseTech]

Originally Posted by Zippster

disagree, everyday she needs to deal with trying to get in and out of her car she will be thinking about it on her way to work. You have to chase them down to get them to pay, it might be a fruitless task that just pisses you off and makes them feel justified. Fight fire with fire.

All this will do is make her think you are the asshole.

[Zippster]

Originally Posted by MightyMouseTech

All this will do is make her think you are the asshole.

who cares what she thinks, besides if you start going after her for money, what do you think she will think about that? Teach a lesson. You were never in the military were you? What's that dirt doing in my hole private?

[Naz24]

Confront her nicely. That's all you can do.

Tell her you really care about your car and its important that she respects that. Don't do it in a confrontational way, women don't like that. You know, they can be very vindictive.

If the problem persists, then you take further action. If she doesn't change her ways, well then shes being a bitch and clearly doing it maliciously.

In the meantime, buy some polish and touch up the scratch.

What kind of car is she in?

[Aatish]

Bang (into) her

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by Aatish

Bang (into) her

You mean like this

[natedog7700]

Confront her about it. Dont complicate it. Tell her straight up, and inform management. Park elsewhere if possible or switch spots with management. Done.

[jlstyle]

I had this problem once at work, and I wrote a letter(didn't know the owner) for the repair cost and left on her windshield and she paid me in cash. You just need to be clear on what the problem and remedy is. No need to pussy fight on it. She clearly doesn't know the problem, so either tell her straight or don't complain.

[VRG_135]

KISS! Keep it simple. Be direct and professional. Find her workspace, present her with an estimate to get it fixed, and ask for her insurance card. Have pictures to show her and her insurance to back your claim. Don't get mad, but let her know this is her fault and she needs to take care of it.

[bimmerfrk]

Originally Posted by VRG_135

KISS! Keep it simple. Be direct and professional. Find her workspace, present her with an estimate to get it fixed, and ask for her insurance card. Have pictures to show her and her insurance to back your claim. Don't get mad, but let her know this is her fault and she needs to take care of it.

Nah

only rational thing to do here is look for another job

_-_At the Interview_-_

Interviewer: "so why are you looking to join our firm?"

OP: "the woman who parks next to me at my current position keeps bumping my car with her door"

Interviewer: " You seem like a real go-getter and we like people with obsessive compulsive disorder, when can you start"

[VRG_135]

Originally Posted by bimmerfrk

Nah

only rational thing to do here is look for another job

or move to Canada?

[Maynard]

I would take another shot at talking to HER - if she is this clueless, then unlikely anybody else will get through to her, but her asking you if you were PO'd is a really good sign - means she isn't really looking to piss you off, just ignorant. Trick is to get out of your headspace and take her perspective, enough to then educate/correct that. From your side, she is irresponsible or aggressive, but she probably doesn't see it that way, so your anger will just confuse her (you will basically be saying 'straighten up, act right' and she probably thinks she is there already). Better to take a few minutes and let her know how bad it makes you feel, and how much the car means to you, and how you are spending $ to fix this. Remember that lots of people really don't see what the big deal is about a door ding, but they do understand hurting people's feelings.

Also I would strongly urge you to not return the damage or go aggressive on her. Then you become the bad guy, and the whole situation changes into something much much worse for you (I bet HR WILL take a real active interest in an employee getting bullied, especially a young woman - and what are the chances she is a marginal performer and looking for some EEOC umbrella coverage?).

[Nkc]

Originally Posted by VRG_135

or move to Canada?

Sorry, we're not taking pussies at this moment.

[VRG_135]

Originally Posted by Nkc

Sorry, we're not taking pussies at this moment.

It's just a sausage party there right now?

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by Nkc

Sorry, we're not taking pussies at this moment.

Originally Posted by VRG_135

It's just a sausage party there right now?

I smiled. Nice one.

[MR92_]

First world problemzz

[desertman123]

Originally Posted by f80lul

First world problemzz

This IS a BMW forum.

[Nkc]

Originally Posted by VRG_135

It's just a sausage party there right now?

You're 100% correct. Canada is full of dicks right now and we're also at max capacity. It's also one of the worst countries to live in right now so please no American refugees.

[Fahrvergnügen]

Do you have a way to exchange parking spots with someone else at work? You can make up some lame excuse to have a spot somewhere else. Some companies have like an online forum for rants or whatever. Or you could speak with a coworker who wouldn't care to trade.

Fighting with the chick will ultimately end badly for you if you intend to drive your 3er. She obviously doesn't care and you do, so you have everything to lose and she doesn't.

[dr.mba]

Originally Posted by Maynard

I would take another shot at talking to HER - if she is this clueless, then unlikely anybody else will get through to her, but her asking you if you were PO'd is a really good sign - means she isn't really looking to piss you off, just ignorant. Trick is to get out of your headspace and take her perspective, enough to then educate/correct that. From your side, she is irresponsible or aggressive, but she probably doesn't see it that way, so your anger will just confuse her (you will basically be saying 'straighten up, act right' and she probably thinks she is there already). Better to take a few minutes and let her know how bad it makes you feel, and how much the car means to you, and how you are spending $ to fix this. Remember that lots of people really don't see what the big deal is about a door ding, but they do understand hurting people's feelings.

Also I would strongly urge you to not return the damage or go aggressive on her. Then you become the bad guy, and the whole situation changes into something much much worse for you (I bet HR WILL take a real active interest in an employee getting bullied, especially a young woman - and what are the chances she is a marginal performer and looking for some EEOC umbrella coverage?).

Agree 100% with this. It is important that she understands how much you VALUE your car. Any imperfection in it makes you feel TERRIBLE. This is not the first "ding" she has caused. I think it is fair that she PAYS for this. There you have it.

M

[TEC]

Originally Posted by Nkc

You care too much about your car and you'll always be the bitch in this case. I feel you bro. Here's my rare and legitimate advice.

Oh thanks!

[TEC]

Originally Posted by Axius

Don't be so passive about it with her, fucking show her you're pissed (to an extent) because of how much you actually care about your car. Hell I told the Mexican next door to piss off from parking in front of my house because I didn't want to see his minivan when I look out the window.

Another option is to park far away from everyone and get some exercise every day. You complete two tasks, your car isn't near idiots and you do your body a little bit of good.

Why should I park in the elements just because she doesnt care enough not to damage other peoples property?