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I truly don't understand dick pics and why a guy would send them to a girl. Really, I don't. Maybe some females can shine some light here, but I would have thought this would render exactly the opposite of the desired effect.
I agree looks matter for both, but I also believe women do not prioritize a guy's looks to the same degree that men prioritize how a woman looks when it comes to attraction. Not that the guy can be ugly per se, looks matter, just less so. And so then you double down and take a picture of a part of your body that I wouldn't say is overly attractive, or at least I don't understand why it is, I'm proud of it yeah, but wouldn't say its attractive, and send that off? It just seems so bizarre. |
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As for the relationship, I see your point completely and don't disagree; however in this instance I believe it is geared more toward lack of emotional development and how one communicates during stressful times. Screaming in the face of someone who has PTSD is not a constructive means of communicating. Unfortunately, I can not risk putting myself in a situation where someone could potentially get upset and start screaming in my face. Those that have PTSD will understand all too well. Bad things happen when you wake sleeping bear with aggression. I won't allow myself to be in that situation. As tough as it is to walk away from someone I care deeply for, my mental health and the ability to sleep without nightmare's trumps a relationship of any kind. If I am open and upfront about my mental state, the other person should appreciate my openness and understand there is a reason for my being open about it; not throw caution to the wind and see how far they can push me because they are upset. She's a great person, HUGE heart, honest, pretty, amazing body and the sex was something out of a porno but......I could own a mansion and if there was black mold, I couldn't stay there. Sometimes, it only takes one small thing overlooked to ruin what a person spends years building only to be forced to walk away. Tough decision, but aside from my kids; I come first. I'll fill everyone else's glasses after I've filled mine, but I'm not going to fill everyone else's first and then do without. Do I sound like I've had countless hours of therapy? |
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The problem with dick pics is that girls like seeing pics of guys who are attractive and hung well. Unfortunately, most men are overweight and only a small percentage are packing meatloaf. We as men tend to think that it's either bigger than what it is or that it will instantly make women want us. Why do we think this way? Because when we start talking to women that we are physically attracted, we want to know what they look like naked. How do we react to this feeling, we react the way we wish women did. Men are visual creatures, women are not. I'm going out on a limb to say I think we would do better as men, if we could somehow show women what we really are inside....versus sending pics of our beans and mash. Really want to get a woman's attention with a picture? Leave something to the imagination. Bathroom nudes aren't going to do it. I'd love to hear a woman's input as well. I need to know how wrong I am here. cmyx6go Lups rebekahb care to educate us? |
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10-06-2020, 12:48 PM | #7310 | |
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Nah, see I think you are right, and much the way I see it too. I was going to say (but then I didn't type it) that if a guy wanted to send a pic, it would probably generate more interest if it was a shirtless pic (that didn't include the banger and beans) - they'd honestly probably be more interested in that type of picture. But maybe we are both wrong - I welcome any corrections from the other side. I guess on the plus side, a guy who doesn't send dick pics would automatically be sort of elevating himself in terms of interest? Is that a logical leap...I'm not sure it is, but maybe. I think you probably could differentiate yourself on dating sites to a degree, but only if women were searching for you...and if they're constantly inundated with crap, they're probably not overly interested in searching as they figure they'll just find more of the same. Interesting predicament. My buddy is in the same situation - great guy, really wants kids, late 30's, not overly attractive admittedly, in a great place financially and frankly could probably retire in 10 years if he wanted to, but just cannot find anyone good. I feel for him though, I'm pretty sure he looks at my life and others and is a little jealous of our families. And I probably would be too if I was him. And I very much loved the meatloaf reference - well done on the cross reference posting! |
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10-06-2020, 01:11 PM | #7311 | |
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Here is what I discovered on dating sites a few years ago. If a man tries to separate himself apart, and I did; a person gets lots of attention. One also has to be mindful of the attention he is getting and who it comes from though. Oddly enough, I had a well typed out profile, classy pictures and left things a little vague to make them curious of this mysterious Scorpio. (I had help from a few lady friends on my profile, yes...I cheated. It also worked, kinda.) Snared several ladies with this, and not the typical dating app type ladies. I dated several women who didn't have profile pictures due to their jobs. Most guys overlook this. Some women without profile pictures aren't hideous, they are being safe. For the man who excludes himself from sending dicktographs, (yup; just came up with that as I typed it, feel free to use it) it may differentiate him from the masses, but just like the lottery, you can't win if you don't play. This is where I would consider the sniper approach versus the machine gun approach. You only fire one shot when it is required versus as many as possible with hopes of hitting the target with just one. Another angle to this mindset is how is a man supposed to make a woman feel significant in his life, if the truth were to come out 20 years later: "I sent dick pics to everyone I know and she just happened to be the one to take the bait." I also think this mentality is why I don't want to date at the moment. It's not a matter of finding someone "that will do" I want the one above the others. Also, yes; your friend is definitely envious of your marriage. Guys, genuinely good guys, who have trouble finding a suitable partner often judge themselves and what they are doing wrong based on their friends relationships. I only have 2 friends that are married that I envy. The rest are also part of the reason I feel it's best for me to exclude myself from the dating (read cess) pool. |
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This whole online dating site thing boggles my brain to begin with. When I was young, the only people that did dating "services" where those that couldn't get a date on their own. Times have changed.
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there's nothing wrong to have those apps if you use them not for its intended purpose (often, at least) but for the purpose it transformed to. both men and women use it for validation nowadays it's rare to hear anyone go on any dates from it or get laid through it... |
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People use the apps for validation since they have been alone for so long, and just want to chat and waste time. They get pissed when you actually want to meet up and get to know them. Sorry I have a busy full-time job and texting someone every day for 3 months with no intention of meeting makes no sense haha. |
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I don't need to date or to have sex, I just need to know that I could potentially have had a date or someone might want to have sex with me based on a picture on a dating app. Yep, no better time for me to give up the dating life than right f*cking now. You guys enjoy it....I'm gonna go build a damn empire. |
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A prenup usually puts an immediate end to it because it demonstrates that you have zero trust in that person, so I could see how they might be offended. Lotta gold diggers out there though. |
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Bring it up early. There is usually a greater reason than simple personal asset protection. If they can't understand that, goodbye and good riddance.
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What kind of empire we building? I'm out of the dating game so I'm down. I'm thinking something along the lines of sports bras for men, we call them "sport bros", slogan can be "Just like your bros, our sport bros support you!". This is america with obesity rates over 50% so I think we could make a killing. Let me know when we are starting boss lol.
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Empire? Did someone say empire? Are we building one? How big is the military? Who are we invading? Joekerr, will Canada be the first to fall? I'd like to be the new Minister of Stuff and Invasions. UncleWede, are you in?
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Eh, some people look at the menu at a restaurant before going in and ordering a dish. Though do people ever look at the menu just to reassure themselves they can order food? I doubt it
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